Monday, July 13, 2009

Encouraging Words from an Adoptive Couple

Jordan Rubin, well-known speaker and author of The Maker’s Diet, The Great Physician’s Rx for Health and Wellness and many others, and his wife Nicki, recently shared with us about their journey of adoption through Mercy Ministries. When girls come to us with an unplanned pregnancy, we are dedicated to helping each expectant birth mother reach the best decision for herself and her child – whether that is to parent or place her child for adoption. If a girl chooses adoption, she gets to list all the characteristics she desires in an adoptive couple and we seek to find the best match. If we do not have any potential adoptive couples that match the birth mother’s wishes, we do everything we can to find a perfect fit…which happened to be the case in this awesome God story!

We asked Nicki to share her and Jordan’s adoption story in their own words…

“When most people see orphans or starving children on television, they quickly flip through the channels because they don’t want to watch something so depressing. I, on the other hand, stay glued to the channel with tears streaming down my face. At the end of my pregnancy with our son Joshua, I often had insomnia and would sit up late at night flipping through the TV channels. It so happened that I came upon one of these shows. As I sat watching with tears streaming down my face, I said ‘Lord, do you want us to adopt?' I had never even thought about adopting before then. Even though I was due to give birth in a couple of weeks, I starting thinking about adoption for the first time. Jordan was hesitant when I first mentioned it to him, but after a few weeks he was on board with the idea as well. We didn’t really tell anyone, but sort of kept this to ourselves.

"For three years Jordan and I prayed for the Lord to clearly show us if we should adopt. Our basic prayer was ‘Lord, we’re more than willing to adopt if you will bring the situation to us.’ I had a heart to do this, but I wanted divine direction so to speak. I didn’t know if we should adopt a boy, girl or both, a newborn or an older child, one from inside or outside the United States, etc. Since most people seek out adoptions, I knew that if an adoption situation came to us it would be from the Lord. Well, that is exactly what happened.

"After three years of praying about this, Jordan received a call from Mercy Ministries letting us know that there was a situation with one of their birth mothers. Jordan spoke with Nancy Alcorn on the telephone that Friday evening. She told Jordan that a young girl, who was considering an adoption plan for her baby, had listed some very specific requests about what she was looking for in an adoptive couple for her soon-to-be-born child. Nancy read the list and thought of Jordan and me. Nancy remembered that we had expressed interest in adopting on a previous tour of the Mercy home in Nashville, TN, where Jordan had been a guest speaker. This young girl had heard him speak about health and nutrition. Jordan even remembered the specific girl that Nancy was speaking of. That one phone call changed everything. For Mercy to call us completely out of the blue and ask if we would consider adopting was all the direction we needed.

"Samuel 'Sammy Bear' Tyler Rubin was born on Aug. 6, 2007. Although we got to be at his birth, we weren’t able to bring him home for 6 ½ months due to working out the logistics of the adoption agreement. However, even this turned out to be a blessing in the end because we were able to have a phone conversation with the birthfather that ended up bringing a great deal of reconciliation. He even came to the placement ceremony! This was a real blessing because we got to know each other a little bit and he felt that he got to be part of this important decision to place his son with the family God ordained for him. There was also a reconciliation and forgiveness that took place between Samuel’s birth parents at the placement ceremony. We took pictures with both of Samuel’s birth parents and have great memories of that day.

"Not only did we get to adopt a wonderful son, but we also got to know both of his birth parents whom we dearly love. We cherish the letters we get from each of them and can’t wait to share all of this with Sammy Bear when he’s a little older.”


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